“Chezi, fangzi, piaozi,” or “house, car, and money” are the holy trinity of “yao qiu,” or “requirements” that some Chinese women (but most often, their families) are known to base their search of a mate on. They are a throwback to the 1980’s and the days of the 3 响 or “3 rounds and a sound,” when it was common for a groom’s family to provide their new daughter-in-law with a bicycle, a watch, and a sewing machine, plus a radio or an alarm clock. By the 1990’s, these three objects were upgraded to include a TV, a fridge, and a washing machine, but since China’s economic boom, the sky is the limit.
While material assets can certainly be lovely, Chaoji Shengnü would like to remind a few ladies out there that they aren’t everything…
Granny: “Take this neighborhood boy into consideration as your marriage partner, he has a house, a car and money; you should get married with him; he will be a good husband.”
Leftover woman: “Ayaya!”
Leftover woman: “House, car and money these kinds of external factors are not the most important things, a marriage partner’s internal side is important too.”
He has a house, car and money, BUT he doesn’t have mianzi (面子，face, prestige, reputation).
Granny: “Aya, we’d better wait, or find another man.”
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Translated by Alicia Zhang.