A few of our regular readers have asked us – in China, there are obviously many 剩女，or “leftover ladies,” but are there any 剩男, or “leftover men?” Our answer to that is – by golly, yes!!! Despite all of the attention leftover ladies have been getting in the media lately, we’d like to make it very clear that they’re not the only ones feeling the heat. The gents have it just as hard, though we must insist that their struggles are radically different. While Chinese women face extreme pressure against the clock to marry before a certain age, Chinese men face extreme pressure to accumulate the assets required for marriage. (See our chezi, fangzi piaozi episode). This, in a country where housing prices have skyrocketed and inflation is the name of the game, is no easy task.
It’s also critical to keep in mind that leftover ladies are actually the least endangered of the leftover genders. A Jiayuan.com survey cited in the Shanghai Daily puts their numbers at 5.82 million, while leftover men of the same age cohort (30-39) clock in at 12 million. (The gender imbalance resulting from the one-child policy and ensuing female abortions also plays heavily into this).
As an equal opportunity superheroine, Chaoji Shengnü would just like to remind everyone that well-aware of the challenges faced by Chinese men in the marriage market, she’s more than happy to sweep in and lend a hand to a gentleman in distress.
In today’s society where there are leftover women, of course there are leftover men as well. They just face different kinds of pressure.
Leftover men do not have the age pressure, but mainly economic pressure, such as the need to own real estate and cars.
In addition, the number of men will soon exceed the number of women, so they will experience more difficulty finding a wife.
Although some men are not that financially well-off, they are good husbands who are adept at taking care of and loving their wife.
So I’m more than happy to also help leftover men cope with the pressures they face in their lives. The handsome ones, especially! :-)